The best tool you can use in communicating with parents is to keep talking to them, no matter what. Strong relationship (关系) depend heavily on keeping the lines of communication open. Try to talk about everyday things with your parents. That doesn’t mean telling them everything. In fact, turn the focus onto them for a change: Ask about their day — just as they do with you.  David, 16, is a senior school student. One evening, after he mentioned at dinner that he was thinking of trying out for the school play, his mom kept asking about it for weeks. And later, it also felt like she was getting too involved (参与) in something he wanted to do himself. Instead of telling his mom how he felt, David decided it would be easier not to tell her anything he was doing in the future. A good way to get a parent to ask fewer questions is to offer some information on your own. This puts the communication in your hands. The more you keep a parent told about everyday things, the less they need to ask. Communicating everyday things has another advantage: It can show your parents that you’re responsible enough to make good decisions. It won’t always be easy. You may get frustrated (受挫) at times. But try not to give up. It may take a bit for a parent who is used to making all the decisions to adjust (适合) to the independent-thinking person their child is becoming. Parents also don’t want to see their sons and daughters suffer (受苦) if the choices they make on their own aren’t the “right” ones. To many parents, it seems easier to step in and take control simply because they believe their years of experience put them in a better position to make decisions. If you feel that’s the case (情况) with your parents, talk to them about it. 小题1:The underlined part “turn the focus onto them” probably means ____.
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