One night I decided to spend some time building a happier and closer relationship with my daughter. For several weeks she had been 21 me to play chess(棋) with her, so I suggested a game and she eagerly 22 . It was a school night, however, and at nine o’clock my daughter asked if I could 23 my moves, because she 24 to go to bed; she had to get up at six in the morning. I 25 she had strict sleeping habits, 26 I thought she ought to be able to 27 some of this strictness. I said to her, “ 28 , you can stay up late for once. We’re having 29 .” We played on for another fifteen minutes, during which time she looked 30 . Finally she said, “Please, Daddy, do it quickly.”“No,” I replied. “If you’re going to play it 31 , you’re going to play it slowly.” And so we 32 for another ten minutes, until 33 my daughter burst into tears, and 34 that she was beaten. Clearly I had made 35 . I had started the evening wanting to have a 36time with my daughter but had 37 my desire to win to become more 38 than my relationship with my daughter. When I was a child, my desire to win 39 me well. As a parent, I 40 that it got in my way. So I had to change.
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